Christian safe dating marriage
Pro: There are great people online (I have found them, know them, and am one of them).Pro: For someone immersed in a career or ministry, online dating can open up opportunities that normally would not exist. There is no “Well, I plan on dating someone for six years while I finish my Star Wars collection (sorry, guys), master the art of cooking Ramen, and move out of my mom’s basement; then, maybe I will consider marriage.” For the most part, the people on dating sites want to be married—soon. However, for every good, godly guy online, there is a bad one.If you take notice, if you are intrigued or interested, make a date! We are talking about one afternoon or evening together, not a lifetime.
Most of marriage involves time together, one on one, in a friendship.
Think of it as “Stop, wait for the walk sign, look both ways, make eye contact with drivers, listen’ for the cyber street. It is much easier to make unwise decisions when you are making them rashly. If you do not have peace or, if at any point this becomes an obsession, stop. One of the men was matched repeatedly with his friends in the singles group.
He would e-mail them, “Well, that was awkward.” Then, he would block the profile. If you are seriously considering marriage, it makes no point to lie.
Outside the Duggar-verse, there is the less overt but just as prevalent “ideal spouse” dating. Did she want my sweatshirt because she was cold, or because she likes me?
This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?