Many of us living with genital herpes have been scared to begin dating again, for fear of being rejected, or simply just for fear of passing the virus to their new companion.
Many people never have informed even their close family and friends about their predicament.
Why is dating with herpes such huge a hurdle to some people and virtually effortless to others? Or is it the effects that genital herpes has on your self-esteem and confidence?
From the moment that we were diagnosed, the majority of us experienced a dramatic personality shift.
Through all of the troubles, heart aches and pain that we all have experienced, in the end dating with herpes doesn’t have to be hard.
It doesn’t have to be an obstacle that holds you back from living your life to the fullest.
I'm doing very good now but I still have to work at it every single day.
The person living with herpes has been honest with you to the extent that they faced ridicule and rejection by disclosing this very private information with you.During times of outbreak the couple has the option of exploring alternatives in intimacy that can ultimately increase positive growth in the relationship.When dating with herpes, the person who carries the virus has many options available to minimize the risk of transmitting the virus.Many times people who live with herpes will remain alone for long periods of time rather than face the rejection.Rejections that are based on nothing more than a persons lack of education on the topic of sexually transmitted diseases.Even the phrase “herpes dating” has such a dark undertone that after a period of time destroys even the most confident person’s self esteem.Fear is a very powerful emotion and the fear of rejection can cause us to settle for less.It will encourage communication that will likely minimize the risk of transmission.Finally another positive aspect that is often overlooked is the fact that dating with herpes encourages a relationship that is not based on sex alone.Sometimes simply knowing all the facts about HSV isn't enough to rise above it and effectively communicate and more importantly...demonstrate self-confidence.Sometimes it takes following a proven program or even professional counseling to get you back to the self-confident person you used to be before finding out about HSV. It takes time, effort and a burning desire to keep yourself motivated and break free of the grip that herpes has on you.